It Takes Two to Make a Thing Go Right

Despite all its clichés and oversimplifications, pop music is solid gold to inarticulate romantics everywhere.It’s like the thrift store of dating advice: most of what you find doesn’t fit and smells like moth balls, but sometimes you stumble across that one perfect thing that you’re sure was made just for you, and you keep coming back to shop because you know it’s out there.

Let’s go to the request line…

Hey Davy!

I recently started dating a great guy, and I’m really falling for him. We have fun together, and I feel a strong physical and intellectual connection to him.The problem is that I can’t tell whether he feels the same about me.He is full of mixed signals; one minute we’re close, and the next seems like he’s totally ignoring me.

I’m naturally shy and I don’t know how to confront him about it.I am hoping that my relationship with this guy can amount to more than just being friends, but I can’t tell from his reactions whether I should keep trying or just give up.What do I do?

- Samantha (Canada)
I think Madonna nails it on the head when she says: “Don’t go for second best baby, put your love to the test…make him express how he feels, and maybe then you’ll know your love is real.”You can’t read a book when it’s closed.Rather than trying to interpret his intentions, get him to open up and tell you what he wants.The best way to do so is to simply ask.

The kind of connection you’re describing runs both ways (as opposed to a crush, which is unilateral). In other words, it takes two to make a thing go right.There’s a good chance that he has similar feelings for you, but is also unsure of how to act on them.Perhaps he’s once bitten, twice shy from past romantic injuries, and he’s staying on the sidelines until he’s ready to get back in the game. Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who is wild about you and has no reservations about showing it – someone who will give you love, love, love, love, crazy love.If he’s not that guy, then listen to your heart and shoop on to the next man in the three-piece suit.

Bacterial Vaginosis Home Remedy – What You Must Know

What you must know about BV remedy, when we speak of bacterial vaginosis, this is the name used to refer to the excessive growth of the bacteria in the vagina of a woman. Usually, the symptoms of this condition may differ from case to case. This usually depends from the severity of the problem.

However, there is a common manifestation present which is the presence of discharge. Regardless of the symptoms present, it is important that you learn some of the treatment available and there are lots of selections available for you. There are some remedies wherein they advocated by the doctors in the field of health.

The vagina is home to several naturally-occurring good bacteria in the body such as Lactobacilli. The normal acidity (ph) of the vagina has to be maintained in order for these bacteria to fight other bacteria entering the said cavity. But through the use of several products, dietary changes, and lifestyle habits, the natural environment of these bacteria become altered thus, producing conditions like bv.

Most women infected with Bacterial Vaginosis have no symptoms, and when symptoms do present themselves they can be rather embarrassing for the woman. BV is caused from an excessive growth of normal bacteria in the vagina and is not usually attributed to one specific form of bacteria.

Most of the diseases and illnesses that every single individual may experience today are caused by microorganisms specifically the pathogens. Pathogens are also known as the disease causing organisms that may enter or attack a person’s immune system and cause several inflammatory reactions resulting to pain and diseases. It is true that most of the illnesses are due to accumulation of invisible causing bacteria, fungi, viruses and more.

Consequences of Stress

Consequences of stress can harm the mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.

In fact, the consequences of stress are the most frequent reason for ailment, comprising at the very least Seventy-five to be able to 90% of doctors’ appointments.

Whether it is eustress, caused by beneficial activities in your own life, or improbable long-term thoughts associated with hardship, the stress management tips below can help you conquer the consequences of stress in your wellness.

Yet to beat stress, stress operations calls for producing modifications.Whether you alter your thinking, the method that you really feel as well as yourself, your circumstances or even your tendencies in order to situations, to be able to decrease the unfavorable consequences of stress, you need to make adjustments.

Eustress compared to Hardship as well as consequences of stress.

A number of types of stress, such as eustress, tend to be wholesome. For example, workout is a brilliant eustress, delivering good consequences of stress.

Time Management from the Sunnah

Prophet Muhammad had a deep appreciation of the value of time and as a result was able to make the best use of every piece of available time. He once grabbed Ibn Umar (ra) by the shoulder and said; “ Be in this world as if you were a traveler.” Ibn Umar (ra) would later explain this to his students by adding; “if you survive until evening, do not expect to live until the morning. Hence one of the many meanings of this hadith is the importance of time. If I was there listening to this narration as a student of Ibn Umar (ra), I would know that I need to seize the moment! Prophet Muhammad had the guidance of a mission that drove him to making time a priority. What is your mission in life? If you don’t wake up every day with a mission/sense of purpose, then you have no motivation. Something has to motivate you to wake up for Tahajjud and begin to seize the moment/day. Time is life itself, guard your time and don’t waste a single second of it. Time is the only thing in life that one cannot get back. If one wastes or looses money or material possessions, these can usually be obtained again. If one second of time is lost, it cannot be regained.  Allah (azza wa jal) says; “ By time, verily man is in loss,” “Has there not been over man a long period of time when he was nothing…” Other verses also highlight the importance of time. “By the sun and it splendor, by the moon as it follows.” “Or by the night as it envelops.” Allah (azza wa jal) swears by the sun, moon, night, day etc! Wallahi this is how time passes!

I remember hearing one Sheikh say; “Muslims should be so tired at the end of the day, that as soon as their head hit the pillow they should be fast asleep.” I try to do just this every day. If you have achieved maximum benefit from your time during the day, you will be tired. I ran across these statistics but am not too sure of their authenticity. However after doing some math myself, they seem reasonable. Lets say the average human lives to be 65 years old. This is the median mortality rate. We spend;

Sleeping 27 years

Work 10.5 years

T.V. 10 yrs

Eating 4 years

Driving 3 years

TOTAL: Are you ready for this?  54.5 years!!!! I only have 10.5 years left to do anything with my life. I didn’t throw in play station and x-box. I have seen grown Muslim men sit on these things for hours at a time! I was listening to a talk some time ago and here was some advice on getting back some of this time.

Wake up for Tahajjud and Fajr = 8.3 yrs

Fast on Monday, Thursdays, 3 additional days per month, Ramadan= 4yrs

Less TV = 5 yrs

Get a job that you truly love doing = 10.5 yrs

TOTAL: 27.8 years!

Here are some of my favorite hadith on making the best use of time and seizing the moment;

The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) always demanded that work should start early in the morning. On the authority of Sukhr Al-Ghamidi: “The Prophet said, ‘O Allah, bless my nation’s early rising.’ If he dispatched an army or a division, he did that early in the morning.” [Abu Dawud, Ibn Hibban] Sukhr was a merchant who used to do his business early in the morning, and he made good profit and became rich.

Aisha reported a Hadith with a similar meaning; the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, ” Rise early to earn your living and do your affairs, for it brings about blessing and success.” [at-Tabarani]

Fatima, the Prophet’s daughter, said that when he saw her still lying in bed one morning, he told her, “My daughter, get up and witness your Lord’s bounty, and do not be among the indifferent; Allah distributes daily bread between the break of dawn and sunrise.” [al-Baihaqi]

In part III insha Allah, I will give some practical how to tips for managing time and being more effective.